“Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;” — Ephesians 6:2–3 (KJV)
My dear girls, let your future love pursue not only you but your family as well — let him “court” them the same way he is courting you. Having the approval of your parents (including your siblings) will definitely give you a good sign that he maybe the one you would spend the rest fo your life with (of course after praying to God about His will in your love life, ok? After all, He is our Father in heaven, so we really need to listen to what He says).
They — your family and future — must have a connection with each other, not friction. If he has already met them, you may ask your mother what she thinks about him and then, eventually, your father. This will greatly honor your parents (and most importantly you are obeying God’s commandment — and this is the only commandment with promises), as you were asking for their wisdom. Listen to them carefully and take all that they say into consideration. It’s true, you still have the freewill to choose and love whoever you want, whatever your family may say, (or your heart beats for this matter) but I (in my opinion) doubt harmony among your love ones will be seen.
As for me, I’ll surely ask the approval of my parents, and whatever they say will greatly affect my choice — I wish you will also be willing to involve them in this important decision of your life.
I have nothing against you on this post, truly. I just want to help you, (but I kinda learned not to give unsolicited advice, so if you still want to read through — thank you! I hope it will help you even for a bit on pursuing the woman of your prayers. For those who don’t, I trust that you know your way to the hearts of your girl’s family. Either way, I greatly appreciate the efforts you are making for the love of your lives. Salute!) because family’s opinion may make or break your chances with her.
Do not forget them, when you are in their house maybe bring something for all the family (or cook, it doesn’t have to be expensive — it just have to be thoughtful). This way, her family will get closer to you because it will make them feel you are not getting or isolating their daughter for your own, but you are willing to share (only until before you get married).
You see, our parents are alarmed (as in highly super alarmed) when they meet a guy, why you may ask? Because you could potentially live together for a lifetime. They want to know if they can depend on you to do that — so show them that you are dependable and trustworthy. Be genuine and be yourself (I know you know what to do, I’ll stop my advice here. hihi! Goodluck my dear friend). Be very careful though, if you are lying (or not being true to yourself) they would know — our parents have heightened senses when a guy is over (you have been warned, but don’t be afraid).
I’ll leave this one out for you guys to ponder. I hope and pray that our families and our future (yes you future you! Hi!) will live together in harmony for the Lord.
“Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” — Deuteronomy 5:16 (KJV)
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