Standard #4: Not a Gamer

“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:” — Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV)

Disclaimer: I do not have anything against any guys who are gamers. This is my personal list of standards – and for me, time is of the essence. (✌)


You would be asking why I have this on my list? Well you see I want undivided attention from the people I love — even my father knows this, if he is talking to me, he must only talk to me and not do anything else. I have observed that guys who are overly obsessive (for me means without moderation) with games would have a hard time giving his undivided attention to you.

There is a time for everything — if it is my time, it is my time. But I am not really that strict (by the book!) about this (I’ll tell you the secret guys!), if my future would want to play games, he may do so — he just need to be honest with me about how long would it take for him to play. Because let’s face it — boys are boys! It is their “me time”.

So girls, if you happen to love someone who loves games, let them be. Respect and accept them as who they are, they need their own time as well (just like our shopping and pamper time). But never hoard your feelings, if you ever feel bad. Instead talk to him calmly, explain that you feel like the games are taking much of his time and you want to spend time with him. Assure him that this is not an attack on him but rather a way for both of you to meet in the middle without having to hurt each other. Communication is the key! After all, aren’t they cute when they are playing? 🙂


For you my dear guys, please know your limits and do not wait for a heated argument on this issue — please understand we are not attacking you (or the game for that matter), we still want you to play and not stop because we know you enjoy those things. We just want your attention for a bit because we feel that the games you play are more important than us (yes we may be a bit insecure, well I am! haha!). I’ll give you a free tip on how to handle your girls (note that this may not be applicable to all girls, for some playing alongside their man is their bonding moment. I am not a gamer that’s why it is on my list):

You may ask permission to your ladies that you wanted to play (for both of you to easily understand each other. Just honestly tell her the amount of time you’ll be consuming to play, you can even tell her all night — and that’s alright!) just assure her you’ll take care of yourself, eat and drink and most importantly that you love her and that you’ll win the game for her — instant love points for you! I’m sure she’ll cheer you on! (I do! haha! GO!)

Are you able to see the keyword? Yup! You’re right assurance. Just tell her how much you love her and never will the game be on your top priority list. Again, some girls may react differently — she’s your woman, know her love language.

If it’s [both] your time, it’s your time. If it’s game time, it’s game time — I trust that you know your limitations.

Understanding and respect for both of you is needed for this Standard. I hope and pray that we have been enlightened. Though the title may seem a bit harsh for the guys, it is actually me telling the girls to give the man of your life some “me” time. 🙂

I’ll reiterate our verse above for you to ponder:

“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:” — Ecclesiastes 3:1(KJV)

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