New Blog Series: #RelationshipGoals

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Transformed by Grace has turned one last August, and as you remember last year we had our first Blog Series named Project:Standard. I was actually reluctant this year, because I can’t think of any good series to follow up, until last night.

I was reading up on 1 Corinthians 11, about head coverings. It was contoversial actually, for if you read it as is and took it literally, would result to legalism. I asked God for help, to understand the scripture – until He revelaed to me something about submission – specifically wives’ submitting to their husbands (would be one of our topic for this blog series). And since I have read so much about marriage and love over the course of my devotion, I thought why not collate all of them on a notebook and perhaps really learn more about it – and then #RelationshipGoals was created.

I am not creating this solely for myself, actually I wanted to collate all this for my future kids – and now, I think God is telling me to share the journey with you.

It won’t all be all about romantic love – no, it to be all about love in general: a father’s love, a mother’s love, sibling’s love, friendship – relationships we have here on earth. Are you excited? Cause I surely am! I mean who wouldn’t? We’ll be learning love not only from the Author of Love, but Love Himself.

Join me in this journey, as we uncover #RelationshipGoals in light of God’s Truth. I pray we open our hearts to whatever God will reveal to us – whether be it have renewed and wise heart and mind towards relationships, or even a completely new outlook about love.


All Things Made Anew

Losses are inevitable. As much as we want to hold on to these things, there will be a point in our lives wherein we have to let go – whether slowly or abruptly. Sadly, there is no other way around, as much as we want to find one. And in order for us to move forward, we must remove our grip off these things.

Losses are devastating. It leaves us in pain, insecure, and in constant search of we don’t know what.  When we lost something, we don’t only lose what was, what is but as well as what will be – uncertainties that will surely keep us awake at night. And most of the times, wanting to give up.

Losses are overwhelming. More than what we can handle. It is world-shattering, and mind-numbing. It leaves a hole not only in our hearts but also in our whole-being. It almost shuts us down, especially if we let it get into our skin. It breaks us, and nothing in this world seems to make it alright.

We fixate on these things. And that’s the normal human reaction, or else I guess the expression “you only appreciate something when it’s gone” won’t be famous. But have we stopped, reflected, and maybe considered that what happened was more than just a lost? That it is an avenue for the Creator – the Maker, Himself, to move in our lives? That it is an opportunity for Him to make all things new?

“Behold, I will do a new thing…” – Isaiah 43:19 (KJV)

If we let Him, He’ll be able to turn the most excruciating journey to the most wonderful and fruitful one. I admit, there are times it will be frustrating. But that frustration teaches us to depend on Him and cry out to Him. Know that it’s okay not to be okay – just pour it out on Him. It shows humility and we need God in our lives. We need God to be complete.

In our brokenness, God works and one day we’ll look back and be surprised by how much we’ve gone far because of Him. We will get to see and realize that it is necessary to be broken – for Him to mold us. God is more than able to cover up the rough patches of the past. We’ll eventually realize that everything was a necessary piece of the puzzle. We will certainly look back and it will not hurt anymore, instead we’ll smile and just be purely grateful for what He has done.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28 (NIV)

I want us to remember that God is able to turn tables into our advantage. Let us have faith that He will make whole what was shattered and even give us something better, in His perfect time. Trust that the uncertainties are for our own sake. Instead of fixating on what was, focus on Him. Instead of thinking what if, focus on Him. Let God turn us into a masterpiece He wants us to be. Let us grow in His grace and love. And one day, for sure,  the things we gained from the pruning – learning, maturity, memories, and even frustrations – will far outweigh the loss, or we thought was a loss.

“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” – Isaiah 55:9 (NIV)

God is a God of new beginnings – He makes all things new. In Him there is a future full of hope. In Him there is love that will complete us. In Him there is joy that overflows. In Him there is peace that cannot be shaken. Just keep the faith.

 “Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.” – Psalm 34:8 (NIV)

You Are Loved

Hey girl! I want you to do something for me. Is that ok? I want you to say this phrase out loud – ‘I am loved.’ Now could you repeat it again? Nice! One last. Perfect! It’s one thing to know and another to understand that you, out of all the people in this world, are loved. Hopefully towards the end, we could come to an understanding of this phrase, I am sure there would be a realization that will blow your mind and will warm your hearts.

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10 Things I Learned From My Past Relationships

I saw this post to make a “reaction paper” about your past relationship(s). Believe it or not, it is actually a wise advice. The truth is, I actually did that (long long long time ago). Yup, I wrote something that reflected who I am during the relationships. I scrutinized myself (I am harsh to me). I looked upon my own mistakesreflected upon it and most importantly prayed to God. I contemplated on what should be changed, what should be learned and what should be enhanced.

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How To Move On?

I admit asking the world how.

Believe me or not, my desperation led me Google-ing this phrase a lot of times during “The Dark Ages of 2016” (lol, our official title just like The Choking Hazard of 2015). Sadly, the answers I got are not that useful (well in my opinion), as I was expecting a straightforward answer that tells you what to do from the first day until the nth day in order to survive. I was looking for answers to mend the broken heart, unfortunately what I got just made me feel more broken and lonely.

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My God, my God, I ask for counsel
Not to stumble,
Upon a man of scoundrel.

My God, my God, I’ve had enough
My heart has been broken
Twice, it has been rough.

My God, my God, I pray for thee.
A man who walks close,
Towards You is my plea.

Poem I (barely) made while reading Passion & Purity.